Hard Things

We've always been open and honest with Dayna. When she asks a hard question, we give her a prayerful, thoughtful, age-appropriate answer.

Earlier this spring, we had a hard conversation about her first days. And because Dayna's story is exactly that...her story, I'm not going to share details here. But it started to sink in that her other Mama made a very sad decision. And she started thinking about her identity. We haven't discussed this further, because she's still processing, and frankly, isn't ready yet.

We have intentionally tried to build positive feelings in Dayna about her first family and her country of origin. We celebrate China for the wonderful cultural things it has to offer.

So imagine my surprise when Dayna and I were reading a juvenile non-fiction book about China that we checked out from the library. It talked about how families in China are small because they are only allowed to have one child. Innocuous enough...but my girl wants to know what happens to second children.

And now she's processing even more...wondering if she was a second child (we have no way of knowing.) I certainly don't want to hide anything from Dayna...but there's a time and a place. I'm just not sure a non-fiction book geared toward children needed to bring that up.

So...prayers are appreciated as we continue to be sensitive to Dayna's questions and give her appropriate, truthful answers that don't degrade the positive feelings she has about her first country.